10 reasons I could wish for a relaxer

If you have had a chance to read my previous posts, you should know by now how I feel about my hair. Let me summarize it to three words: Identity- Crown- Diversity

No matter how good I feel about my precious cloud, there are moments when I wish I could just go back to using a relaxer. Here are 10 reasons that contribute to this feeling.

           1. VOLUME. I do not have the volume of most natural hair and the more my hair grows, the more it loses the puffy “afro” look. Topping it all, air blows my hair in every direction possible.

           2. SHRINKAGE. It is a love-hate relationship with this one, it feels good to be able to rock different length of natural hair at times. But not being able to show the actual length of my hair can be stressful.

           3.  WORK. Everything about my hair is calculated and planned. From the daily routine, to the weekly wash and the monthly treatments. I put all those in my hair diary.

           4. LENGTH. When i started i was obsessed with length, I felt my hair was not growing. The longer it got, the longer it took to do my normal after-wash twist. The harder it also is to maintain the growth.

           5. BREAKAGE. I try as much as possible to not play with it so I don’t break it.

           6. STYLING. My hair is never in place when I dare to leave it out. I start the day with my hairstyle and my hair decides what it wants to do for the rest of the day.

           7. HAIRSTYLES. Most of the tutorials, pictorials for styles don’t look good on my hair. Either not enough volume or not enough curls. i dont get the same results. Simply not as easy as it suggests.

           8. PROTECTIVE STYLES. I have to choose a protective style that will not damage my edges which suffered already from all these years of tight braids. It is even harder to hide damaged edges when you are natural.

           9.  HAIRDRESSERS. They sometimes charge extra, because you have natural hair and practically comb you bald to make your hair smooth before braiding.

          10. BRAIDS. I had to say goodbye to corn rows with the smooth extensions. It is pain to make the lines in your hair, extra pain for pulling your hair and extra plus pain for the flawless look to match the extension. And on top of it, you have to take the hair down as soon as your natural hair is sticking out of the cornrows.

That being said do I regret my choices? Do I feel like buying a relaxer?

Not at all. I am enjoying every bits of this journey to claiming my identity. Sometimes when I catch myself thinking what a jungle on my head. I just think of myself as the mistress of the jungle. The mistress that has tamed every corner of the jungle and now owns it. i can assure you, it is a great feeling